A GIRL child is born….. antediluvian times marked the girl child as being the advent of either Goddess Lakshmi into the house or a burden depending on the financial status of the family or the status of literacy!!! Twenty first century led most if not all into an era where the girl was considered no different from boys and was given the same prerogatives and privileges in the household as a boy child or possibly more pampering for being Daddy’s Little Angel!!! As the angel grows up her parents nurture her in a well knitted niche, an enclosed protected environment, in a sense of immaculate security, warmth, emotional support and the other peripheral nitty gritties to ensure the blossoming of a feather touch bud into a robust, will powered and a socially sound individual!!! As their little darling ventures into the realms of adulthood, and starts to decide for herself, parents are apprehensive of letting their invisible leash go off their hands although they rejoice and ardently hope that their baby (who always retains the status of a baby in the eyes of her parents) is heading in the right direction by making the right decisions governing her life….. while little is known what the future has in store…..Time passes by and the little angel insulated in the cocoon of her papa is handed over to yet another “so called” papa figure…..there comes the Grand OR….the “NOT SO” grand after a while entry of this character called the HUSBAND!!!!!

To begin with….the “HUS” band is all about I am all for you and none else…..I am your protector until death…..being a father figure (in metaphorical terms)…..You are beautiful to me the way you are….I will truly in literal sense act as your second half, lending a helping hand, dividing sorrows, multiplying the happiness……making the necessary compromises and molding into a better person for a better family…..sharing all aspects of life….a friend in need or not…in a crux….a TRUE COMPANION in all facets!! Well all these hyped, flattery, flowery, diabetic, pompous words tend to take the route of being converted into actions until and a little after the “BOY” in a “GIRL’S” life upgrades himself to the status of “THE MAN” in a “WOMAN’S” life.....the first rain and those little words hold no weightage!!!! Is it true that the second man in a woman’s life after the first (her father who doted on her) would truly in all senses replace and become the first man eventually or does he take the woman so much for granted as he dusts off his sandy promises that he deteriorates from being so close to being the first man to not being a MAN at all???? It is now when the “HUS” Band tends to start reflecting the attributes of and become legible to be entitled the honor of being addressed as a “HAS”Band!!!

There have been escalating evidences of men behaving ruthlessly with their dutiful wives not only in their states of marginal or negligible receptivity which can be accounted for and explained, for HE, The Superior Sex is immersed in….alcohol to suppress his sense of inferiority, BUT, also in their complete state of sense and sensibility….which I would explicate as a means to just re-establish to others and to themselves the long suppressed Male Chauvinism (MCP’s as we women aptly address them as!)…..and to prove a point that might necessarily not make any sense….but still since it is “HE” who is stating it…. well….it HAS to be accepted or else BAM BAM….there goes the woman’s face smashing against anything that comes in her way!! The woman would never ever have in her nearest nightmares have visualized her “HUS”band turning into a “HARSH”band!!!! Does seeking help from one’s MAN at times of need….when the woman is entangled into other businesses of the household and when the MAN is doing nothing but enjoying the wild cats on Nat Geo or the phony WWF wrestling OR is lazing giving orders to his “Love” a crime that he uses anything he is holding or can get a hold of to thrash the shock stricken woman of the house??? Or is it that “HE” finds it demeaning to be helping around on the home front when supposedly house caretaking is a “WOMAN’S JOB???!!!!” Who on earth made such preposterous rules and why should the woman be regarded nothing but a piece of shit or why should only she give in to all the whims and fancies of her so called “ COMPANION”…..while he just enjoys all the Maharaja treatment????!!!! Why cant MEN try and realize that life would be better enjoyed and understood and lived to its zenith if they throw some little respect to the opposite sex rather than humiliating them….a teaspoonful of acknowledgement to the woman for being there to sow up the broken strings in the family…a tablespoon of trust….a pinch of support….and garnish the dish by being nothing but just a BEST FRIEND to the woman??? Why?? Why?? Why??

Shattered are the dreams of the woman
For her Man was not a Man afterall
Strewn are the wishes of the father
For the father figure wasn’t even a human
Dejected are the hopes of the family
For the family ties remain loose ended
For there lies a decision so carefully plucked and trusted
Out in the dry barren sands of time
Vulnerable, wrecked, and disillusioned!!!